Frequently Asked Questions

The. Following rules are enforced in the bate room where we hold our events:

What is ALLOWED::

1. Penis play
All types of penis play is encouraged. Solo, handjobs, mutual, swordfighting, frotting, dry humping, edging, milking, gooning.

2. Loudly encouraging masturbation is encouraged.
In the bate room, we love to hear you get verbal if it’s related to masturbation (technique, brotherhood, penis time, etc), compliments about physical features of a person (penis, testicles, bodyhair, mansmell etc), role play (daddy/son, etc), orgasm, etc.. But loud talking kills the mood if it’s about anything else: for example pussy, tits, ass, blowjobs, fucking, or what’s going on in your personal life.

3. Consent is  the law
Get consent before touching anybody else,  kissing someone,  ejaculating on someone else or sharing your poppers  or lube with someone else.

4. All other types of non-penetrative, non-BDSM activity is encouraged.
If consent is obtained, the following activities can happen: kissing, hugging, massage, ball play with hands, nipple play, armpit play, feet play, etc.

Some BDSM play may be featured at certain events, under specific conditions.

What is NOT ALLOWED:

1. No oral-genital contact.
No sucking, kissing or licking any part of the genitals. No blowjobs. No teabagging.

2. No ass contact of any kind.
No contact of any kind with anybody’s asshole, including your own. No showing off your own asshole. No fucking. No rimming. No finger, fist or object in asshole.

3. No cum in or near mouth or anus.
Bukake is ok, if consent is obtained. But direct your cum on any other body part other than the face or butt. What you do with the cum once it’s on your body is your own business.

4. No humiliation of other members.  

That includes  hitting, slapping, bondage,  urinating or spitting on other members. and making humiliating comments about another member.

Breaking the rules may result in your immediate expulsion from the event and the Club.

Two reasons:

First and foremost; we love jacking-off with other men! There's just something special about bate parties that's different from anything-goes sex parties. The atmosphere tends to be much more friendly and relaxed - maybe because there's a feeling that there's less at stake - and there's more of a sense of group cohesion. Some of us have memories of (real or fantasized) circle-jerks that the parties key into and that is HOT. Jacking off together isn't a substitute for "real sex" it IS real sex.

And then there's safety. One of our goals is to provide a space where men of all sexual orientations can enjoy the excitement and energy of group sex without having to worry about sexually-transmitted infections (STIs). While HIV is not the automatic death-sentence it once was, it still has dangerous long-term health effects and - yes - it does still kill people, even with the successful drug treatments available now. It's also a reminder that new STIs could be popping up at any time.

Sucking cock isn't a high-risk activity for HIV transmission but it isn't risk-free and it IS a great way to transmit other STIs. As people's attitudes about what they feel safe doing have changed over the last few years there has been a large increase in STI transmission, especially syphilis and gonorrhoea. Also, a large percentage of recently-HIV infected men don't know that they are HIV-positive and continue to have sex that can transmit the virus during the highly-infectious months after seroconversion, raising the potential risks of relatively low-risk activities like cocksucking.

As adults we all have a right to decide what level of risk we're comfortable with when it comes to sex. The Montréal JACKS provides a space for men who want to avoid infecting themselves - and others - with STIs while still providing hot, sweaty man-to-man action.

For the Montréal JACKS events held at a bathhouse, if you really want to suck cock, please take the action to a private room, the dark room, the dry sauna, the steam room, or the glory holes and enjoy!

(Adapted from Philadelphia JACKS)

We don’t care if you identify as gay, queer, bi, straight, or on the DL - we're all about pleasure, not orientation. All open-minded, pleasure-seeking men are welcum - we won't ask any questions about your orientation. 

If you're curious or interested but have never had any experiences with other men, JACKS events are a GREAT way to explore and enjoy! You'll need to be comfortable in a room full of horny, excited guys - kind of like a locker room, but with more hard-ons. You'll probably be approached, and it's up to you to decide whether you want to get physical or not, and to communicate that in a polite, friendly way. Come and check it out, man - it's really fun!

(Adapted from Philadelphia JACKS)

Our brotherhood aims to be a safe space.   We welcum men from diverse backgrounds and expressions, and every connection must be rooted in respect. Here, difference is embraced, never judged, regardless of your orientation, gender identity, age, race, penis/body characteristics, or abilities—our strength lies in shared brotherhood. Vulnerability and trust go hand in hand (and hand on penis), ensuring that every bator can feel safe, let go, be seen, and feel completely free to share their penis time without shame.

That said,  for trans and non-binary participants, there are guidelines to be respected:

• Trans men  may participate if they have started hormone therapy and had their top surgery.  In addition, they must ensure that no penetration of the front hole is allowed to  happen with any object,  hand  (including their own) or other body parts.
• Non-binary bators and trans women  may participate if they have a penis and if they do not wear any feminine-looking accessories (clothing, shoes, makeup, wigs, nails, breastplates, etc) at the door nor during the event. Having an androgynous look, or breasts that are part of your body (natural, hormone-induced or implants) is okay.  In addition, you need to be ok with getting misgendered as a man during the event.

If you have any questions, please don't hesitate to contact us.

It can be intimidating for some people if you’ve never been to a jerk-off party before.   A « meat and greet »  happens before each event, for newbies to enter before everyone else and meet the welcum volunteer, ask questions, meet the team of volunteers and get a guided tour of the venue.  If you would like to attend the  «meat and greet » prior to the event, get in touch us.

Some  people may be intimidated by the idea of being in a large room, full of horny men.   If it helps,  know that there are smaller rooms at the venue with far fewer bators, that might not feel so overwhelming or crowded.  And if you ever need a break, there is plenty of space to just sit, have a drink or a snack, and chill, away from all the action.

JACKS events are meant to be really relaxed and friendly with very little attitude. If guys approach you and you're not interested we ask that you be polite (that's part of the no-attitude atmosphere) and just let them know that you're not interested.

If you just want to watch at first (or always) just say "thanks, but I just want to watch for a while".

If you're playing with a guy or guys and someone else wants to join in and you're not interested just say "no thanks" (and a smile is nice). "No thanks" usually works just fine. If you get somebody who's really persistent (it's rare but it could happen) then gently pushing away unwanted hands (or whatever) is OK too. If he doesn't get the message, try a few polite but forceful words like "Hey, thanks, but I'm really not interested" and if he’s touching you, give his hand a firm but gentle squeeze as you remove it. As long as you're willing to be clear you shouldn't have any problems.

It is very rare, but If you feel that someone is not acting in this spirit then we encourage you to talk with one of the event volunteers or venue employees about it.

(Adapted from Philadelphia JACKS with extra inspiration from Patrick Marano)

If you see them at a Montréal JACKS event, then they're there for exactly the same reason you are; they want to get off. If they're right there in front of you and you don't want them to watch, then you can go to another part of the venue.  Remember; they can't dish dirt about you without letting people know that they were at the party too. Relax and enjoy!

(Adapted from Philadelphia JACKS)

Talking about penis size (as though we had any say in our genetic development) comes from a heteronormative standard of what a man is. We have no control over our penis size and it shouldn’t be used to make other feels inferior or as though they can't enjoy their penis as much as you.

But we live in a culture that is constantly telling us that we aren't thin/tall/built/handsome/etc. enough - mostly to keep us insecure so we'll be good consumers who are easy to control. So - yes - sadly, it is perfectly normal to feel self-conscious about your appearance, but - Please! - don't let that keep you from joining us! We’re hoping that one of the great joys of the Montréal JACKS experience is the tremendous diversity of the men who will attend, and if you keep your eyes open, we’re hoping you'll see that physical appearance has little to do with how much fun any one man has during the events. A positive, friendly, open attitude is the thing that's going to get you a great Montréal JACKS experience - not a huge cock or six-pack abs.

(Adapted from Philadelphia JACKS and BW member StrokeandSniff)

Absolutely! Montréal JACKS events are All About Dick, but that doesn't mean all of the dicks have to be hard, or that they have to squirt cum. The nerve endings in the penis that give you pleasure when touched work the same way, whether your penis is hard or soft.

If you're not able to get or keep a boner, or you only get a semi, it's probably good to be ready to let guys who play with your cock know that you have ED, and that can be as simple as "If you're wondering why me dick isn't getting (completely) hard - it's because I have Erectile Dysfunction, so my cock doesn't get hard/as-hard, but what you're doing still feels great - please don't stop!".

If you don't ejaculate because of surgery or whatever it's the same basic idea. If you want it to be obvious to the man/men who you're playing with that you're cumming - even though they don't have the usual visual confirmation of that - then; come on, man - make some noise! We love noisy men, and we also love good communicators, so a simple "Oh... oh.. I'm coming!" at whatever volume you like is a great way to keep things moving along.

It's always good to be prepared to communicate clearly, and it's part of our mission to help men to feel more comfortable doing it. ED and non-ejaculation are nothing to be ashamed of - you deserve pleasure and the guys at Montréal JACKS are ready to provide it.

(Adapted from Philadelphia JACKS)

If you think you might need some, it's OK to bring one of those little glass bottles with you. We ask that you be considerate of others who might have health problems that make poppers dangerous, and that you be careful and PUT THE LID BACK WHEN YOU'RE NOT USING THEM - that shit is nasty if it spills. We also very much encourage you to educate yourself about the potential dangers of poppers; a lot of guys love them, but - as with many of life's pleasures - there can be problems, especially if you take ED meds, blood pressure meds, anti-depressants, other drugs or have a heart condition. It is for this reason that we ask you to please refrain from offering poppers to someone, or shoving a bottle under someone’s nose, unless asked by the person. For more information.: here and here

(Adapted from Philadelphia JACKS)

A few tips regarding health conditions.  These may be boner killers to read, but it is important for you all to be informed and act in a way that protects your health and all those in attendance.

1. If you have a rash or any open sores or lesions on your penis, scrotum, groin, hands or mouth, you may have an active syphilis, herpes or monkeypox infection, which could be passed on through physical contact. Please skip this JACKS event until they are completely healed. Also, you are encouraged to have it checked out by a nurse of doctor at an STI clinic.

If the break in your skin in these areas is the result of a scratch, a cut, a burn or some other type of trauma, it may make it easier to contract these infections if someone gets cum or precum on the wound. Wait until the wound is completely healed before getting someone’s cum or precum on that area.

2. If you have a fever, a cough, sore throat or runny nose, you may have a contagious respiratory infection (like COVID, influenza, or any other respiratory viral or bacterial infection) that could easily be passed on when breathing heavily in a small space (like the private rooms, porn video room and steam rooms at Coloniale). Please do not attend this event, not even with a mask, until the symptoms are completely resolved.

If you’ve just had COVID in the past 10 days, please do not attend this event, even with a mask, unless you’ve done a rapid test that is negative. (Some people are still a bit contagious after 5 days, even if the symptoms have improved. Given the long intense action and lots of heavy breathing going in a small crowded room, COVID could still be passed on. So just get a free rapid COVID test from the CLSC, to have the peace of mind that you’re really no longer contagious.

3. If you have nausea, vomiting, or diarrhea, you may have a gastrointestinal infection that could be passed on through intimate contact, even if there is no anal contact. Please do not come to the event until these symptoms have resolved. See a doctor or nurse if the symptoms persist more than a couple of days or if bloody diarrhea.

4. If your skin is much more itchy than usual, especially in the hairy parts of your body, it’s possible you’ve got crabs, scabies, head lice or body lice.  Please skip this JACKS event, speak to a pharmacist, doctor or nurse and get yourself treated.

5. You are strongly encouraged to be up-to-date on your vaccines for the following infections, which could all be easily passed on through the types of activities we are having at our JACKS events: COVID, influenza, monkeypox (MPOX), HPV, meningitis, Hepatitis A, Hepatitis B.

1. Long or sharp fingernails or objects can really get in the way of giving a buddy a hand. Consider cutting your fingernails a few days ahead of the event. And consider leaving your watches, bracelets, rings, jewelry or any other wearable objects with sharp and jagged edges at home or in your locker. Smooth wedding rings are OK though (and kinky!).

2. Some guys are sensitive to strong chemical scents such as deodorants, antiperspirants and cologne. Please consider avoiding these products, or washing them off, when attending the event

3. It feels so good to  have your penis touched by someone else’s hands, especially when they are warm! Consider taking a warm shower especially when it’s cold outside, to warm up those hands.

4. Consider using mouthwash when you arrive at the venue even if you don’t think you need it! Bad breath is a major turn-off for some guys.

5. You can be barefoot, in socks , or clean dry footwear.  In the winter,  bring extra socks in case the get wet in the area where shoes and boots are stored.

6. You may want to avoid getting too drunk, stoned or high. It could interfere with your hard-on. Also, the venue employee could refuse you entry, or ask you to leave if you are too inebriated.

Here’s a list of things you may want to consider bringing to the JACKS events.   All items on this list are optional.

1. Your  favourite lube

2. A  towel to sit on

3. Your poppers. (See question on poppers)

4.  Your fetish gear (leather, jockstrap, puppy mask, etc..), depending on the dress code of the event.

5.  Your  clean dry footwear if you don’t want to be barefoot.

6. Sex toys for your penis (cockring, pump, fleshlight, etc…) or your nipples.  No urethral sounds.

7. Your mouthwash

8.  Your  own drinks, or cash to make a voluntary contribution for non alcoholic beverages and snacks at the bar.

A couple of things to leave at home or at the coatcheck:

1. Your phone or camera.   

2. Butt toys: JACKS Code of Conduct forbids any kind of contact with anyone's asshole, including your own so if your favourite toy is a butt toy,  leave it at home.

(Inspired by Philadelphia JACKS)